Amir is so much like a clingy baby. He shrieks when I put him down and started to walk away. Flashback; I noticed he started this since 4 months old. Which I assumed, it's just a sign of him noticing common faces surround him. When someone else carry him, he started restless. No cries just restless. The real separation anxiety happened when he was 6 months old. Even though I tell him I’ll see him soon, he thinks, “It’ll be ages before I see my mum again.”
Some pictures, recently taken.. Umur dah dekat setahun pun, I thought this clingy-thingy will outgrows when he becomes older - or maybe 1 year is not old enough - or once he becomes older he is more aware and more mature understanding of the world around him.
Menangis sakan lah, mommy letak dia sorang-sorang. Padahal mommy pergi ambil camera and cepat2 ada depan mata balik nak capture gambar. Siap amek camera lari pecut 100 meter. Kadang-kadang dari dapur mommy menyelinap lari masuk bilik air pun Amir perasan. Dengar bunyi dari tempat lain, pun Amir tau that must be my mommy hiding. So it's a very tough work for Ami to handle him when I was up and about doing something else.
Kalau dengar Amir giggle main dengan Baba while I was in the bathroom, tersengih-sengih sorang-sorang. Tak sampai berapa minit dah dengar dia nangis balik. Sigh.
Some babies are very independent, and don't think much of sitting and cuddling. Most babies like to be cuddled. But Amir is a super cuddly, possessive, demanding personality baby. Susah nak distract dia dengan benda lain if he wants mommy. Sampai mommy sampai la baru dia berhenti menangis. I can't seem to leave without him getting upset. He used to warm up to anyone, but now he clings to me whenever a stranger approaches like nobody business!
But chances are for a case like this, he will be close to you when he is older and a bigger help than some children who are more independent from the start.
~I wish. Atau inilah akibat selalu ejek suami 'Mommy's boy' Huahuahua. Sorry yang!
Thing is, there are times I have to work, bending and twisting, using both arms, but when he is awake ---> these times, a closed door between me and Amir's screams! It preserves my sanity and patience! Then I became a Mommy Monster. And that's not all, I also got criticized for holding my extra needy baby too much :( Very unusual for me to let Amir screams for longer than five minutes. 5 minit pun tak pernah sampai kot. Takkan nak tunggu he becomes hysterical. Sometimes I feel like wanna close the door when I have to, and hold on! Some might called Amir, crying baby - well, he was.. masa baby sangat dulu. When we were somewhere else with others, I have to mingle around, lend hands to do some work - that is a perfect time for Amir to scream. By right, Amir is just a happy baby.
Especially, time like this.....
When mommy laid down, he will slowly crawl and landing. Peace. It can last long.
Different people might have different perception of this situation. Those who came across the exact same situation and those who are not. But who said you did anything wrong? It's the baby that has no understanding the concept of time, when you're saying "Just a minute," you may as well be saying "Just a millennium." So instead of letting Amir cries and screams I would rather sit by his side, and let him explore his surroundings. I'm sure learning to separate from Mom is difficult. It's difficult for an adult too :(
I'm waiting for Amir's 'hatching' process, he will surely realize there's a whole world out there apart from mom. And mom can come back to baba *wink*wink*
I can't wait the time where I canstood up right away, "And it came to pass!"